The only things you should be chasing are dreams and adventures, not some mediocre relationship. You read that right!
At one time or another, the thought of altering our personality may have crossed our minds. Presumptions linked to behaving in a certain manner to appear more attractive or biting your tongue to avoid saying the wrong things have frequently been at the forefront of our dating journey. Unknowingly, transforming who we are as individuals with the aim of earning someone’s admiration can be classified as chasing.
Like chasing after a soccer ball while disregarding all the yellow cards the referee has given you. Nevertheless, you persist in running faster and faster in the hope of scoring a goal, which you never do. You relentlessly chase and chase, only to end up discarded like an old rag.
Resisting the urge to send that infuriating text you are tempted to is not going to increase their fondness toward you. Quite the opposite, it will only inflate their egos, making them believe they are doing you a solid favor by giving you the time of day. By doing so, you are slowly compromising your entire character for mere crumbs of attention.
The opaque vision has cast a shadow over the concepts of self-love, self-respect, and self-protection as one chases an affection that never existed in the first place.
Whether an individual can obtain the same level of admiration in return remains uncertain. Manipulation and anxiety are the primary challenges one may encounter in an imbalanced relationship. Regrettably, you might grasp whatever they are willing to offer without asking questions. The issue arises from becoming too fixated on having a fairytale type of love, only to end up losing your entire identity in the process.
Unfortunately, a fairytale kind of love is never going to happen if it doesn’t first come from deep within. The meaningless pursuit of affection will persist until we learn to love and respect ourselves unconditionally.
One can possess the ability to attain this by making amends with their imperfections and flaws, while understanding that they deserve the very best. YES, WE DO!
I cringe when I reflect on how frequently I used to criticize myself in the hope of finding everlasting love. Yet, I remain single and happy!
The person you ultimately end up with will love you for who you truly are, not for a distorted version of yourself. This won’t happen until you learn to love yourself unconditionally. It’s funny to reflect on the life lessons learned derived from the constant pursuit of unappreciative people. Without them, those lessons would not have been possible, equipping us with the tools needed to recognize our worth and greatness.
It’s comical to imagine the numerous opportunities wasted on a person who simply took and took without giving even a fraction of the effort. Each tear shed signifies the raindrops that fell when chaos erupted deep inside. You may have assumed you couldn’t move forward without him, but you managed to pull through the darkness and into the light, emerging stronger and better than ever!
Let’s stop chasing unworthy relationships and increase our focus on living a great life, while saying yes to adventure.