A True Fairy-Tale Love Start By Prioritizing Self-Love

Disney has had it all wrong! How many times have you seen the famous fairytale plot in which Prince Charming magically appears to rescue the damsel in distress, falls madly in love, and they live happily ever after? I imagine it’s an incalculable amount.

Disney is not the only one who has exploited this concept. Hollywood movies, TV shows, plays, and books, to name a few, all have implied a similar notion of needing to find a man to be truly happy. There are a multitude of things a partner can do to contribute to your  happiness. Still, that doesn’t mean your joy has to be utterly dependent on that person.

On the contrary, a partner should amplify the vibrancy you already have, rather than being the sole source of it.

Have you ever heard the term ‘wait until you meet your other half’? The other half of what? A pie, a cookie, or a cake? The last time I checked, we weren’t any of those things to be seeking another half.

Sure, we all hope to meet someone who can add some excitement to our lives without sacrificing our essence. Wanting and needing a partner are two different things. We might wish for a significant other, but that doesn’t mean we require a partner to experience contentment.  If you believe you need to be in an affectionate relationship to feel fulfilled, then a lover is not what you need.

Indeed, we all once dreamt of encountering a fairy-tale type of love and feeling intoxicated with happiness. But at what cost? At the steep price of neglecting ourselves by seeking external validation. With mounting anticipation, we patiently await the selfless reciprocation of the love we give.  Unfortunately, nothing can guarantee that the time and energy invested into building a solid relationship will ever be appreciated.

It is an unjust way of looking at things, yet that has been the norm for centuries. Where do we leave the fairy-tale, we ought to have for ourselves? One, where we don’t need to rely on anyone in order to be saved/rescued.

Furthermore, we need to start romanticizing our life by treating ourselves with tenderness and kindness.

We all want a fairy-tale type of love, which is a given. It’s human nature to long for a partner who will sweep us off our feet and give us an everlasting love that enriches our existence. However, I can’t expect him to fulfill my life because that’s not his job; it’s mine. Our responsibility is to treasure and respect ourselves before letting anyone into our lives.

The desire of obtaining minimal affection from others will gradually fade away by being subconsciously aware of our values without seeking external reassurance. The love you possess for yourself should exceed the love anyone else can give you. This means your self-love must be incredibly strong to block you from accepting anything that doesn’t measure up to your standards.

Having the self-respect needed to distinguish the type of love we deserve can often come down to following our instincts.

Love is everywhere, but finding high-quality love is like a pirate trying to treasure hunt with no map.

The type of admiration one is searching for varies from person to person and is influenced by their personality traits, self-confidence, and self-esteem. It’s all relative!

Does it mean that one love is better than another? It could! Not all love is created equal; some are pure, while others are toxic. Although love often represents a warm feeling of fondness and tenderness, those aren’t always the telltale sign of a proper kind of love. True love lies in learning to prioritize oneself while accepting and embracing our individuality, including our likes, dislikes, morals, characteristics, perspectives, and so forth.

Self-respect is the cousin of self-love. Our profound self-love is evident when we respect ourselves fully. Any threat toward our persona is unwelcome. We understand the power that comes from honoring ourselves to stand up against even the slightest hint of disrespect. Without self-respect, we would be unable to recognize how much we deserve to be respected.

Fairy-tales are nice, but not at the expense of our self-love. In general, relationships can be liberating as well as hold us hostage. The love we possess for ourselves is the only thing that sets us free, making us aware that our happiness does not have to be bound to anyone. Prince Charming might have saved you once, but that does not mean he will do it a second time. Instead of waiting for someone to bail us out, we should work on learning to be content with the person we are. Once we master the beauty of self-love, we will become unstoppable.

Stay Beautiful XoXo

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