Rejection Stink, And Yet It is Needed

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 Rejection is inevitable, no matter how hard we try to avoid it. Similar to a bending machine refusing to accept the dollar, it would just not take it. You become mad to the point of being furious as all your effort to get a bottle of water to satisfy your thirst is for nothing.

Defeated and frustrated, you walked away, not realizing there is a better machine further down. The other machine is better and will happily accept the dollar without you having to bend and twist it. Not only will the other bending machine gladly accept your dollar, but it will also give you more options. Initially, if the machine did take the money, you would have ended up with a boring drink as well as unsatisfied.

No matter how you put it, rejection sucks, although it is necessary. Ugh, what is that nonsense? Wait, listen! 

Commonly, rebuff is view negatively, is it really? Rejection enables us to step out of our comfort zone and to explore new horizons. In the beginning, it might feel like the end of the world, in fact, it is the opposite. It is an opportunity for you to go and reinvent yourself and start writing a new chapter of your life.

At times, we are so focused on finding that ideal person that we lose insight of who we are as individuals. It is an uphill battle going beyond for someone who does not appreciate the effort you put into the relationship as well as your authentic self.

Overcommitting is a recipe for disaster as you will end up neglecting your wants and needs.

For any relationship to function, both parties have to put the same amount of effort into the relationship; not one person gives 70% while the other only gives 30%. When that occurs, the relationship becomes the identity of the person giving more to the relationship, and upon it ending, they find themselves in a pit, unable to recognized North versus South.

Recognize you cannot be in an obscure bubble forever, deciding to move on by getting out of the comfort zone. It might be impossible at first, but it will get better day after day. Gradually, your confidence will grow, waking up that adventurous side once forgotten. With the newly gained confidence, you will start to see your immense value learning how not to lower your standard ever again and accepting less. The realization hit like splash of cold water in the sense that you gave and gave and got nothing in return. It is a mistake that taught you an unforgettable lesson lasting a lifetime. Once you find worth within yourself, you will no longer give 70%; instead, you will give 50%, and anyone unwilling to put the other half would not be welcome.

Eventually, you will look back and reflect on what you had to go through to improve yourself and to be where you are now. Thanks to the rough patches, you are stronger than you were before. Down the road, you will find the right person who will be willing to give you what you deserve and so much more. Until then, be aware that rejections are temporary, and without them, you would not have found yourself.

Stay Beautiful XoXo