Finding a semi-right candidate to get to know is nearly impossible. It is like foraging for a diamond among rocks. Very frustrating if you ask me!
Often, putting in the effort into getting to know someone is viewed as this tremendous task, too complicated and emotionally draining. Why do the work when there is a pool overflowing with low-maintenance candidates who wouldn’t require much effort right at your fingertips? A clear sign they are not trying is when he/she ask the same basic and boring questions; your favorite things, what do you like to do for fun? What is your job? Come on, can’t you be a little more clever!
Obviously, we are not going to vibe with everyone, which is okay. Still, getting to know someone shouldn’t feel like pulling teeth. After the first few text exchanges, you should be able to tell if the connection is there and their level of interest. A good indication to move on and stop wasting your time is when they are using one-word answers to respond or abbreviations “hbu?” Like bro, didn’t you learn the alphabet? The alphabet has 26 letters-use to create words. Words then are combined to construct sentences. I know, mind-blowing! Lol
Dating should be fun and adventurous, not dreadful. Recently, I realized that dating shouldn’t be taken too seriously. Until we find the damn diamond, we will encounter many interesting things along the way. Then why not enjoy the journey until we reach our destination?!
We put so much emphasis on first dates that we forget to look at the big picture. Looking at the big picture is an opportunity to see things for more than they are. Your date didn’t show up, for instance, it shouldn’t stop you from exploring the city and having a drink at the restaurant you have been dying to try. The important thing here is that you didn’t let your date ruin your evening and had fun regardless.
Going on dates needs to be seen as an opportunity for self-discovery and self-awareness. Discovering new things in life, meeting new people, seeing what ticks you off, and learning what truly makes you happy all are part of the journey. Who cares if the date didn’t turn out how you thought it would? The important thing is that you put yourself out there and did something new. In the end, the only person that matters is you, the rest is secondary.
Ultimately, dating is about enjoying the process. Don’t stress with allocating a partner instantly, instead focus on yourself. You will discover many fascinating things along the way that will help to shape your character while redirecting you toward a completely different and a greater path from your original one. And that it is ok; you will be seeking a new perspective as it will be lead you to your greater self.
Everything is a learning experience, although it doesn’t seem like that at first. Many have to go on countless dates before meeting their ideal person. The exciting thing about going on dates is the stories you will have to share. Nothing better than relating the occurrence with your closest friends over wine. Discussion with your friends will not only create a bonding experience also it will bring a new outlook to examine and see if the person met your expectations or not. If they didn’t, do not worry because to find a diamond you have to excavate until you spot the one meant for you.
I totally agree that dating should be about experience and enjoying the process. You have to discover what’s wrong before you realise what is right!
Exactly… if you don’t explore and have fun you wouldn’t know what you want/deserve. Ending up settling for less