As the old saying goes: “It is better to be alone than in bad company.” And that couldn’t be more accurate.
Being with someone solely to avoid loneliness or singleness is a form of self-betrayal. Persistently pursuing a relationship, no matter the cost, can lead to losing sight of who you truly are.
Why invest in a relationship that will end up in nothing but hardships and headaches? Self-doubt, abuse, and sorrow are what you can expect in return.
Imagine going to the moon and back would be insignificant for an ungrateful partner. Even if you bring the moon to their feet, they’ll overlook it. Later, he/she would whine about why you didn’t fetch the stars too while you were at it. Nothing will ever seem enough!
Enduring endless sacrifices is harmful to one’s well-being, as it involves compromising your morals, perceptions, and emotional state for a individual who takes you for granted. The misery encountered is not worth the fraction of happiness they are willing to give you, if that.
Relying on another person for your happiness is a colossal mistake; your happiness is solely your responsibility entirely, nobody else’s.
Knowing how to be alone is a skill not many have the privilege to possess. Loneliness can be intimidating, requiring immense strength to confront internal fears while looking deep inside.
Having the courage to confront inner traumas demands time and patience. Sporadically, it’s easier to turn to toxicity rather than be alone with our thoughts. Let’s face it, many look outside for distractions to prevent the terror of delving into what lies within.
Unknowingly, being surrounded by toxicity can become so addictive to the point of craving it, although its consequences are detrimental. It can cause you to be extremely high one moment and extremely low the next. Without it, you feel like a part of you is missing even though nothing is misplaced.
The dating culture can be quite baleful, and that’s a well-known fact. Relationships form a significant part of our identity, whether they are romantic or friendships. Sadly, if you find yourself not in a good place mentally and physically, it can unexpectedly shatter you into pieces.
The ideal companion will be uplifting, yet supportive, fostering growth, trust, and individualism.
The opposite can be noted for a selfish, inconsiderate, and unsupportive partner. The wrong company will subtract from your life rather than enrich it.
Jennifer Delgado, a psychologist, explains in the article “The Science Confirms It: Better Alone Than in Bad Company” how loneliness motivates us to achieve personal fulfillment, paradoxically paving the way for genuine love that isn’t driven by the fear of solitude.
Choosing to be alone until the right person comes along is the best choice one can make. Riding solo for a while is an opportunity to discover your true and authentic self without feeling guilty or ashamed. The fact is you are not lonely when you’re enjoying your own company. You can always rely on yourself when things have become unbearable, possessing the unbeatable strength needed to persevere.
Before you step into your next relationship, first ask yourself: Does this individual add value to my life? If they don’t, then wait until you find someone who does.
The worst thing is to neglect your values and beliefs just to have a companion will lead to unhappiness in the end.
We all want to love and be adored, yet at what price? Loving someone should not tamper with your identity. Presuming it does, run in the other direction. Caring dearly in an unselfish way isn’t a guarantee it will be equally reciprocate it.
Delgado, J. (2019, June 20). The Science Confirms It: Better Alone Than In Bad Company. Psychology Spot. https://psychology-spot.com/better-alone-than-bad-company/