There comes a point in life when one must let go and accept things as they are. No force can prevent waves from reaching the shore during high tide. We should strive to learn to be content with what we can not control. It is time to let go of anything that no longer serve us!
Often, we immerse ourselves in an empty pool, yearning to control the uncontrollable. We frantically kick our hands and feet, attempting to swim against a non-existent current. However, if we pause and take a moment to appreciate our surroundings, we come to realize that nothing is as overwhelming as it seems. There is no point in swinging our arms when stepping in a puddle—it will only lead us nowhere.
Desperately clinging to things that no longer serve us does more harm than good.
You cannot persist in scratching a wound, fully aware that doing so may prolong the healing process. To facilitate the wound’s complete healing, you must let it be and expose it to air. Failure to do so will result in a larger scar than intended, as stubbornness and impatience can interrupted the healing process.
As humans, we have an innate desire to exert control and manipulate things to match our expectations. Nonetheless, this behavior often leads to discomfort and unhappiness because we fail to accept the natural order of things. I’m not suggesting that you should abandon your goals or halt working diligently for what you desire. Rather, I advise against altering your true self or pretending to be someone you’re not merely to gain acceptance or approval.
The more we hold to our preconceived notions of how things should be, rather than accepting what is, the greater the disappointment becomes. Disappointment arises when nothing can ever truly satisfy us if events don’t transpire according to our desires. It becomes an ongoing struggle between oneself and the overwhelming desire to resist the natural flow of things. Ultimately, you will be at a disadvantage, as no matter what actions you take, you will never change the circumstance.
By letting go, you step into a new horizon filled with opportunities, encountering a transformed version of yourself.
Holding onto what you believe you need hinders your progress towards your destined path. At times, we cling desperately to familiarity, fearing the unknown, believing that what we currently possess is the best we can ever have. Liberating ourselves from what holds us captive can be paralyzing and even terrifying, as it means venturing into uncharted territory and breaking free from our comfort zone.
In order to proceed, one must be willing to embrace uncertainty—a challenging undertaking that involves abandoning what was once familiar. Surrounding oneself with familiarity can be comforting, but it can also be limiting, hindering personal growth due to a reluctance to move forward. Transitioning from the familiar to the unfamiliar may seem frightening, yet it also holds great rewards. It is in this transition that you step outside your comfort zone and embark on a journey that was once only a dream. As the saying goes, your new life will require sacrificing your old one. And that’s freaking terrifying!
In terms of relationships, there are times when people enter our lives for a chapter or a season, which is perfectly acceptable.
The universe brings them into our path to impart valuable lessons that propel us towards surpassing our previous limitations.
After a breakup, for instance, the initial phase can be challenging as you find yourself at a loss for what to do. The person with whom you once spent the majority of time with has opted for a different path than yours, cutting off all contact. Now, you are compelled to continue solo despite the heartbreak and seize the day. Perhaps that heartbreak was the catalyst you needed to finally embark on the trip you had longed to take. Unfortunately, your heart was broken, but without experiencing that pain. Meanwhile, you may not have found the motivation to embark on the journey of self-recovery.
The last few years have taught me the importance of letting go and accepting things for what they are. Accepting what it is doesn’t mean just sitting back and watching life unfold before your eyes. Oh, no! I mean letting go of the things I can’t control and accepting them, whether they relate to myself or others. For example, just because it might rain doesn’t mean your entire day is ruined. Moreover, not completing the tasks that were high on your to-do list doesn’t mean other things can’t be accomplished. Other tasks can be tackled through strategic planning.
It’s about making the most of what you have and being okay with it!
The direction of this post took a totally unexpected turn, and that is fine! In the past, I would and occasionally still do berate myself when things fail to unfold as I imagined them to. But guess what? I have gotten better! I have come to understand that I cannot exert complete control over my surroundings merely to mold them into my desired shape. I’ve had to say goodbye to some friendships because they were one-sided. There were no ill sentiments attached to this decision! Those relationships simply ran their course.
Remember: letting go = redirecting!
P.S. I’m glad that the blog veered off its original path.