The ex is an ex for a reason. And should be left behind for that exact reason. Your ex keeps contacting you because he is still aware of the power he has over you. Simple as that! 

Unknowingly, there is a part of you that wishes to rekindle the relationship. Expecting that he has changed and is willing to rewrite his wrong doings is something you romanticized about. Sorry, to burst your bubble! But, this is not Freaky Friday, where he magically becomes the person you want him to be after reading a Chinese fortune cookie. That is not how life function!

Your ex isn’t coming back out of the goodness of his heart. Clearly, he knows you are going to respond every time. Why shouldn’t he reach out? A part of you still belong to him. The part that refuses to cut all connections with him. Be realistic and stop with the illusion that he wants to get back together. If that was his intention, you wouldn’t be here wondering what he want.

Mind you, once an egg has hatched and the chicken is out, the egg can’t be re-hatched. You can try to put it back together, but it is impossible.  The same thing can be said about the ending of a relationship. Again, he is an ex for a reason. Endlessly reaching out, don’t automatically erase everything that he put you through. Global warming exists, and not wanting climate change doesn’t make it disappear.

The truth is he will want to preserve his role in you life. Not because he cares, but due to convenience. Convenience in having you there, always available whenever he needs an ego boost. If he truly cared, he would have left you alone to heal and apologized for his actions. Has he done that? No! My advice to you is; you need to stop responding and cut all connection. He would not do it, so you have to take the responsibility and do it. The time has arrived for you to look after yourself.

Your Dating Confidant, Dioma xoxo