Why We Seek Clarity From the Person Who Confuses Us?

That’s a good question! Seeking clarity from the one who made you confused in the first place can only bring more confusion. Mainly, all you want is for him to reaffirm that the story you told yourself subconsciously wasn’t a fiction one. Going back and asking for answers to the obvious only opens the door for hurt and sorrows. Unknowingly and freely, you would be putting yourself at his service to do whatever he wants like handling him the key to toy with your emotions. You have had your answer right in front of you, you just were too stubborn to acknowledge it.

It might be confusing on your part and definitely not on his! You are failing to read what his actions has been telling you. Babe, sometimes words are not needed when it all has been written through a person’s behavior. Why would you make yourself inferior by demanding an explanation or a simple text back? Clearly, he is no longer interested or otherwise he would had given you a reason without you even asking for one. Sorry, but going back does not magically give you the clarity you are desperately looking for. Instead, it only amplify the turmoil of high emotions you are currently experiencing. So, stop going back and asking for things they refuse to give you. There might not be no words to describe the pain you are experiencing with the revelation as the mental image you had of him is no more. Gradually, you will open your eyes and begin to see him exactly as he is. Understand this one thing, even though he may not be bad person, he just wasn’t your person. Anyway, why do you seek for additional clarity when he is making it as clear as day that he is not interested? In the end, you wouldn’t find clarity in the same place that brought you confusion.

Your Dating Confidant, Dioma xoxo