You cannot force a frog to turn into a prince, just like you can’t demand someone to like you.

If you think that a person will change their mind about you the more you bend to their will, you are mistaken. The sun doesn’t shine just because you want it to or because you are well-behaved.

Listen, when someone declares that they are not seeking a relationship and are only looking for a casual hookup, don’t be stubborn enough to think that you possess the power to change their mind by simply going with the flow.

Initially, we are keenly aware of what we want, although some might mislead you into thinking they desire the same thing as you. The facade could last for hours or a few days, serving as a way to test the waters.

Here’s the thing: you will know if someone is truly interested in you by their actions and their willingness to accommodate your needs. It’s that simple!

The complex thing is when we try to distinguish something insincere as sincere. Pushing a relationship to work can only result in heartache when you refuse to acknowledge what is clearly evident. Opportunities will not alter their beliefs. The more chances you give, the more they will take you for granted, as there is already another opportunity waiting for them.

Modifying who you are to become what they are searching for is a disaster. Unintentionally, you will become a slave to their mercy, whether you realize it or not. They will toy with you, just as a dog plays with its toys, knowing it will go nowhere.

Your stubbornness led you to believe that you could persuade them to want the same thing as you, despite them explicitly telling you otherwise.

All the while, it is your own feelings that are being toyed with, leaving you empty-handed in the end.

You cannot teach an old dog new tricks, as you might lose your identity in the process. Never force someone to desire the same thing as you. This fixation will only lead you towards self-disrespect, as you try to amplify how deserving you are of their time and affection. Remember, it is not your job to make them certain of you!!!

The ideal way to deal with the situation is to accept things for what they are and carry on. Moving on allows you to relieve the self-induced pressure that comes from pretending to be something you’re not. Let me emphasize how impossible it is to convince someone to desire something they have no yearning for.

Dating has taught me a critical lesson: always listen to what the other person wants and observe their behavior.

If both of your needs don’t align, then it is time to move on, no matter how attractive you think they are. Precious time shouldn’t be thrown away in meaningless conversations that will go nowhere. Besides, you could be using those minutes more productively.

If you need to force it, then it’s not worth it. There’s a difference between fighting for what you want and being fixated on making something work that will never work. Your obsession with making it function might drive you to accept mere crumbs of affection that the other person is willing to offer. Don’t mistake those crumbs for love, because they are far from it. Consider them as elusive treats – they’re there to test how much power they still hold over you.

Remember, if you must beg, then it’s not love. It is infatuation!!!

I can’t stress this enough: always love yourself first to know when it’s time to walk away. Lingering around, waiting to receive a tiny replica of the same love you freely gave is a form of self-betrayal. It may not seem obvious, but you are disrespecting yourself by not setting boundaries and being content with what little they give you. Staying longer than necessary does not equate to appreciation; on the contrary, it only encourages them to take you for granted even more.

Stay Beautiful XoXo

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