The height of a ladder entirely depends on how it would be utilized. We cannot go to the hardware store and purchase a ladder of a lessened measurement knowing fully well it would be impractical. However, we proceed to buy it, for the convenience of not having to search for another one.
Then, why is society so critical of our high standards? Often, bashing or labeling them as absurd.
You wouldn’t choose a four-foot ladder to climb a six-foot tree only because it’s less heavy to haul around. Ultimately, double the work would have to be done-to drag the ladder back to the store to exchange it for the correct one.
Overall, one shouldn’t gravitate towards someone who doesn’t match your beliefs solely to be in a relationship.
Having standards is great. They work as a benchmark to determine if something is worth it or not, proving a clear vision of what we deserve.
People who play by their own rules tend to be viewed as crazy or delusional. For these individuals, the average option isn’t satisfying. There’s nothing wrong with that! Some individuals are happy with the ordinary, while others desire to find the same energy that complements theirs.
Positive self-awareness is the primary element in setting health expectations.
Depending on how you view yourself influences greatly the way standards are implemented.
If a person has low self-esteem, he/she will set low enough standards that would be easy to ignore.
The issue is we fail to recognize how remarkable we are, leading to a mediocre relationship in the hopes of finding the deep affection we so desperately crave. Being with someone who doesn’t align with your principles/morals can result in many undesirable consequences.
In the beginning, it might be all colorful and rainbows, but conflicts arise when both parties do not see eye-to-eye.
And then, all standards become secondary.
For example, not possessing the same professional and personal ambitions can cause division between both. Work and family can represent an integral part of a person’s life. Meanwhile, the partner has a hard time accepting the facts.
Rather than communicating to try to overcome the problem, he/she plays the victim’s card, which puts the entire blame on the other person. What is there to blame? If, beforehand, the individual was made aware of how important it was to have a thriving career while maintaining a strong family bond. Then, he/she have nothing to complain about. Jeopardizing, time with your family and friends is an unfair betrayal to your well-being and morals.
The type of light we see ourselves is instrumental in the kind of relationship standards we set in place.
Believing, we are undeserving of love only draws manipulation from those who will take advantage of our generous hearts. Meantime, if the individual is keenly aware of who they are and their capabilities as a human being. Then, there will be no room for mistreatment by anyone. When we recognize our value, we do not tolerate any form of abuse. If you aren’t willing to acknowledge my worth, then carry on!
Not implying you need to have crazy high standards. Only the self-awareness to understand that the bare minimum is never enough. Being indecisive can ruin your dignity, opening the door to uncertainty regarding how exceptional you are.
Ideally, you want to form a relationship with someone who supports your ambitions. The key is to assure both sides have similar dreams and are supportive of each other when pursuing them. Only you can determine what you deserve; that is not the bare minimum.