The height of a ladder entirely depends on how it will be utilized. We can’t just go to the hardware store and grab a shorter ladder, knowing well enough that it would be totally impractical. But hey, we still end up buying it, out of convenience and avoiding the hassle of searching for another one.
Then, why is society so critical of our high standards? Often, bashing or labeling them as absurd.
You wouldn’t opt for a four-foot ladder to climb a six-foot tree just because it’s lighter to carry around. Ultimately, you would have to do double the work—to drag the ladder back to the store and exchange it for the correct one.
Overall, one shouldn’t gravitate towards someone who doesn’t share your beliefs and morals solely to be in a relationship.
Having standards is great. They serve as a benchmark to determine if something is worth it or not, providing a clear vision of what we deserve.
People who play by their own rules tend to be viewed as crazy or delusional. For these individuals, the average option isn’t satisfying. There’s nothing wrong with that! Some individuals are happy with the ordinary, while others desire to find the same energy that complements theirs.
Having a positive self-awareness is the primary element in setting healthy expectations.
Depending on how you perceive yourself, it greatly influences the way your standards are implemented. If a person has low self-esteem, he/she will set low enough standards that are easy to ignore.
The problem lies in our failure to recognize how remarkable we truly are, which often leads us to settle for mediocre relationships in the hope of finding the deep affection we desperately crave. Being with someone who doesn’t align with our principles and morals can have numerous undesirable consequences.
In the beginning, everything may seem colorful and full of rainbows, but conflicts arise when both parties fail to see eye-to-eye.
And that’s when all standards become secondary.
Take, for instance, differing professional and personal ambitions; they can cause a divide between the two individuals. Work and family often form integral aspects of a person’s life, while the partner struggles to accept that fact.
Rather than communicating to try to overcome the problem, he/she plays the victim’s card, which puts the entire blame on the other person. What is there to blame? If, beforehand, the individual was made aware of how important it was to have a thriving career while maintaining a strong bond with their family, then he/she has nothing to complain about. Jeopardizing time with your family and friends would constitute as an unfair betrayal of your well-being and morals.
The type of light we see ourselves in is instrumental in the kind of relationship standards we set in place.
Believing that we are undeserving of love only draws manipulation from those who will take advantage of our generous hearts. Meanwhile, if the individual is keenly aware of who they are and their capabilities as a human being, then there will be no room for mistreatment by anyone. When we recognize our value, we do not tolerate any form of abuse. If you aren’t willing to acknowledge my worth, then carry on!
Not implying you need to have crazy-high standards, only the self-awareness to understand that the bare minimum is never enough. Being indecisive can ruin your dignity, opening the door to uncertainty regarding how exceptional you are.