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How Exes Assist In The Discovering Of Self-Love

Do you know when they said you need darkness to appreciate light? A similar concept can be implemented when it comes to your exes. You could potentially have needed to cross paths with that person to learn to value yourself. Whether you agree or not, it makes sense as absurd as it may sound.

Often, the sun tends to shine brighter after the storm has passed. As crazy as the torrent had been, you always had the power to withstand the tribulations at a time you imagined to be impossible. Grateful for the storm, as it was a crucial element in pinpointing the immense inner strength you were blessed with. The newly discovered mettle is a major component in battling the many challenges one could have encountered. It is an instrument of the universe to steer you in the right direction, although it doesn’t seem like that at the time.

We exhibit the tendency to be hard-headed, so much so that the only way we listen is by stumbling continuously and standing back up.

The hurt from those slip-ups could be unbearable, momentarily. Commonly, they are the wake-up calls set in place to assist in recognizing the valuable gem you are. As they say, a diamond needs pressure and darkness to form. Without those two elements, a diamond can not materialize, therefore remaining a simple and ordinary rock.

Life put people on the road to redirect us toward reencounter with our worth and self-confidence because we are too blind to notice it otherwise. These individuals are appointed to be part of the story only for a few chapters yet derailing the entire plot. It is what exes are good for.

Although it is intolerable in the instant, the role of the exes is to give us a boost in searching for a part of ourselves that was unknown or deemed lost.

Who you were before and after the breakup are two different persons.

Ultimately, prioritizing your wants and needs will take the spotlight, thus, eliminating the things that no longer serve you. Despite all the hardships dealt with, it propelled you to become assertive and more courageous. More than ever, one will have the stamina to defend with tooth-and-nail who he/she is. The self-love gained from the heartbreak is a significant learning experience. The heartbreak was the steppingstone needed to ignite the flame from deep within that was dimmed for the longest.

The idea for this post came unexpectedly, while reflecting on how far I have come after being blindsided a few years back. If my heart was not shuttered like it was, the blog would be nonexistent. I would not have grasped the importance of loving myself.

Many could view the concept as foolish, especially after all the pain endured, but it is not. Looking back, the immense hunger to be accepted generated an obscure vision, blurring the numerous of red-flags. Also, being mid to late 20s, didn’t help either. The issue wasn’t that I sought affection. The dilemma caused my standards to be lower to the degree that accepting the bare minimum was more than enough. Glad for things to have turned out the way they did, although it was tough at the beginning.

I can say with certainty, people come into our lives to help us to elevate ourselves to something bigger and better.

Currently, look at Shakira and Miley. If they didn’t suffer the heartbreaks, each artist would not be dominating the charts with their songs (the crazy thing this both of their exes look alike). Sure, heartbreaks are painful. But it is up to us to decide what we are going to do with that all that ache. Everything happens for a reason; it is up to us to make the best of the situation. There are two options; 1) let the pain consume you or 2) look at it as a tool to propel you to prevail. The decision is yours!!!

Stay Beautiful XoXo

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  1. January 30, 2023 / 12:28 am

    A very interesting post! I agree with you that each new relationship we enter provides us with new opportunities for growth. Thanks for sharing.

    • shesdioma
      February 1, 2023 / 7:14 pm

      Exactly!!! There are lessons that otherwise would have been learned if it wasn’t for previous relationships. 🙂

  2. February 2, 2023 / 6:31 pm

    I love that you pointed this out, because it is so true. We have to experience the bad times sometimes to know and appreciate the good. Great post!

  3. February 6, 2023 / 4:31 am

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  4. February 7, 2023 / 1:55 am

    Great Post! I agree with you.. We have to experience the bad times sometimes to know and appreciate the good.

    • shesdioma
      February 17, 2023 / 6:02 pm

      Thanks! Exactly, in the end everything fall in its rightful place.

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