Embracing The “Take It Or Leave It” Attitude

You can take it or leave it; this is me. Simple!

Unintentionally, we often place too much importance on other people’s desires instead of prioritizing our own needs and desires. This issue arises when we find ourselves altering our authentic selves to the extent that we become unrecognizable. By ‘unrecognizable,’ we mean neglecting the things that are truly essential to us in pursuit of being likable. As a result, we start suppressing our uniqueness.

What differentiates us from the rest is our individualism, which is why it should be celebrated.

That mindset can be implied in dating. Dating is such a joke that many try to mold themselves to avoid standing out in the sea of potential candidates. To the point of steering away from their true identity just to blend in with the crowd.

But why should you sacrifice your uniqueness just to fit in and avoid judgment or criticism? Therefore, one starts to camouflage their distinctive qualities in an attempt to be accepted and avoid being left out.

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More often than not, our online persona is a distorted version of our true selves compared to the one behind the screen. Both pictures and prompts are strategically crafted for attractiveness, consciously omitting the real us. Some might do this inadvertently, while others may do it deliberately.

For instance, consider a person seeking fun but responding with something entirely different when asked about their intentions. Or someone choosing to exclude their disability to be perceived as a suitable option among many.

It is easier to avoid scrutiny than to confront it.

Going the extra mile to avoid judgment can stem from the negative perception associated with individualism, which arises from the pressure to modify our unique characteristics to conform to the norm. Embracing a ‘this is me; take it or leave it’ attitude can be challenging, especially when it is frowned upon.

With maturity, one acknowledges the importance of individualism by adopting a ‘this is me’ attitude.

It’s not your job to make anyone accept you; just as you shouldn’t hide who you are to be perceived as worthy.

I started to disclose my disability on my dating profile for two reasons: 1) I was tired of wasting my time with close-minded men. And 2) as an experiment to see how much attraction my profile would get compared to when I didn’t mention my disability.

Not getting many matches due to labeling the disability factor on the profile has been a learning experience. It’s comical to witness how close-minded some men can be, particularly within the dating pool. First, they match with you, then unmatched after reading the bio. Amusing, I know!

However, placing all the blame on them seems unfair, though not entirely undeserved. It is human nature to shy away from the unknown rather than asking questions to become familiar with it. We’ve all done it at least once, yet it doesn’t make it right.

However, placing all the blame on them seems unfair, but not entirely. It is human nature to shy away from the unknown rather than asking questions to become familiar with it. We all have done it at least once, yet it doesn’t make it right.

The ‘take it or leave it’ perspective is rooted in the ability to finally recognize that you need to accept yourself fully, flaws and all, before seeking a partner. Accepting the good and the bad from deep within is the only way to free yourself from the chokehold that develops from craving a sense of welcome or inclusion.

Making amends with who you are as an individual is the ultimate superpower.

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