It is that time of the year again!
A time to be thankful for and appreciate everything life has given us.
This year I’m thankful for learning to love myself and prioritize my wants and needs.
I learned to love myself enough to appreciate who I’m and to accept my flaws.
It has been a long journey and extremely bumpy at times, worth it, nonetheless. Of course, I’m very much grateful for my family, friends, having food on the table, a roof over my head, Louise Hay, and the little things in life (better stop there because my list is endless).
Still, I think we don’t take the time to acknowledge who we are as a person. Plus, the countless obstacles we had to overcome to be where we are today.
Continually, we focus greatly on comparing ourselves to others, that we tend to forget how strong and remarkable we are. Sadly, the status quo taught us to reject individualism bringing forward the notion of conforming to society’s norms to determine our worth. It’s a concept I have struggled with for years. When you have a great desire to obtain minimal recognition, you will go to extremes to achieve it.
Learning to love ourselves above all else isn’t selfish, quite the opposite. It is a selfless act, one we frequently neglect. Regularly, we become addicted to the desire of being included or part of a group only to end up endangering our happiness and uniqueness, unknowingly. We spend some more time trying to fit in that we end up losing ourselves in the process.
For once in a very long time, I have made amends with the fact that pleasing everyone is an impossible task. Pleasing everyone constantly would only result in misery and unhappiness. There’s nothing wrong with saying no, canceling plans, having a change of mind, and looking out for oneself. That’s the definition of putting yourself first. Life is not intended to be lived for someone else as that would be just existing. I’m still not where I want to be; I’m getting there slowly and steadily.