How a person act towards you is the perfect indicator to decipher whether or not they are keeping you as an option. Firstly, you have to see things for what they are. Please stop with the crap of waiting around for them to put you on the top of the list. It is not going to happen! When someone is serious in pursuing you they don’t beat around the bushes. This is not gardening 101!

A good indicator is an individual’s communication style. Communicating inconsistently and texting sporadically is a player’s greatest tactic. Texting you should be the highlight of their day and not a chore. Getting to know someone needs to feel effortlessly. Not like scrubbing burnt cheese from the bottom of a pot. The hidden agenda of many is to entertained you without actually having to commit. The oldest trick in the book to keep you as an option. Brushing off or failing to follow through on something important you told them can also be another clue. Any person who is serious about you will express their interest and follow up on what you have talked to them about.

Babe, if you feel they are keeping you as an option it’s because they are. Deep down you know they are leaving you in the back burner at a very low heat, you just don’t want to admit it to yourself. I beg you to not be like Carrie and make unnecessary excuses for his behavior. The fact is he is waiting to see if someone better comes along so he is giving you a permanent place on the roster. Move on if you feel like someone is keeping you as an option! You are certainly not meant to be a second choice!

Your Dating Confidant, Dioma xoxo