Unfortunately, the reason why we get attached quickly is due to delusion. Being attached to the idea of them and not to the reality of them. It’s like you are so desperate to see them in a specific light that your vision becomes clouded, preventing you from seeing things exactly for what they are. It shouldn’t be that way.  

The only thing you should be attached to is becoming better than you were yesterday. Being overly attached to a person is a sign of insecurity. Insecurity, because you think the individual will give you all, if not more, of what you can give yourself. Wrong! Let me tell you; you have the capacity to give yourself a lot more than anyone else can offer you. It is a power we have hidden deep within us that many ought to discover. 

Don’t get me wrong, being attached is good for certain things, definitely not when it comes to relationship. Some might think that obsessing greatly over a person will magically increase their interest in you. Quite the opposite! Being overly attached can only make the person to want distance. This is due to your inability to be your own person and have a life apart from them. Sadly, in many instances, they end up repulsing you.

So, stop wanting to control the outcome and know that if it is for you, it will be yours!

Your Dating Confidant, Dioma xoxo