Why Being Your Own Best Friend Is More Important Than You Think?

We have the bad habit of being unsympathetic to ourselves. Don’t we?! 

Unfortunately, forming this type of pattern could have been ingrained in us from our early years, quietly influencing how we treat ourselves. Similarly, we can compare it to having to carry a heavy suitcase with us through every stage of life. As if the luggage were permanently attached to one of our limbs. The action is done subconsciously. Becoming aware of it gives us the strength to put an end to it! You own it to yourself to become your own best friend.

Now, I want you to stop on your track and open the suitcase. Start to unpack the things you have been carrying around forever, those items that weigh a ton, yet you refuse to release. You know which ones they are! Don’t need to unpack them all at once. To make things less emotionally draining, begin with the small things. 

Many find the best course of action to take is to unpack, little by little. This permits us to test the waters before fully confronting those parts of ourselves that need healing.  The only way to do that is by becoming our own best friend. Achieving that has to do with giving to ourselves the support and guidance the same as we would offer to our best friend.

Start Healing by Treating Yourself Like Your Own Best Friend

The reality is everyone has something to heal from. Then, why do we fail to give ourselves the grace and compassion to go through the motion? Engaging in self-reprimanding behavior can have the tendency to become a daily occurrence, triggered by any minuscule mistake. This ignites a less of favorable pattern of behavior, in where we hold ourselves to a different standard than everyone else. As a result, we severely scold ourselves for not reaching the unreachable standards we have set. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to have standards.  

The standard I’m speaking of here isn’t a good one. It is a place where you believe you can’t make any mistakes. Also, it is one that assumes you must walk on a straight line to be deemed acceptable, to be agreeable and to avoid confrontation.  Having this mentality does more harm than good, as your inner voice starts to judge every action you take. This begins the grueling and self-degrading cycle anytime something doesn’t go accordingly.

Change Your Inner Voice From a Critic to a Compassionate One

The time has come to change your inner voice from a critic to an understanding one. We have to learn to see ourselves through the eyes of love and compassion.  We have gotten ourselves this far, overcoming the hurdles that life has placed in our way.  Possessing that fortitude should be something we ought to be incredibly proud of.  Support could had been around you, but it was you who did the heavy lifting when things got tough, pushing through the hardships.  You also continue on when you thought you couldn’t anymore. Not everyone have that kind of stamina, and you do. If you need a reason to be proud of yourself, I have given it to you. You see, you did something that not many get to do and that is very admirable. 

After overcoming all you have, it’s time for you to become your own inner cheerleader, greatest companion and best friend. The reality is we are going to be with ourselves through the end of time. So, why not make the journey more pleasant and enjoyable by becoming our own best friends?

Becoming Your Own Best Friend Is Your Responsibility

The responsibility is yours to like and love yourself. One way to accomplish this is by using positive self-talk and words of encouragement. It takes practice and discipline to rewire and change your mind, shifting from the survival mode it has always been accustomed to a one of compassion and comprehension. Remember, repetition is the key, so don’t get discourage if your mind don’t grasp it by the second or third time. It is a skill that you need to learn, and that takes time and dedication. Learning to cheer for yourself will give you this immense power, making you feel unstoppable.  

If you are hesitant to take the steps forward to become your own best friend.  Think about how much your younger selves would have loved to have a friend like you. Someone who is compassionate and supportive, encouraging and available through the toughest of times. That individual is you! The issue is that you haven’t recognized it yet.  You are a ten, and your thoughts need to start reflecting that. 

The job is yours to do. To do that, one has to be aware of the characteristics we wish that individual to possess. When you feel your inner voice trying to say something critical, stop and change the narrative to something loving.  So what if it didn’t go how you wanted it to? There is tomorrow to try again. If you are nervous about someone liking you, learn to reframe that narrative. For example, change the perspective to view it as you liking them and how they would be lucky to have you in their life.  That said, start being your own best friend, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

Stay Beautiful XoXo