Red Flags Are Warning Signs And Ignoring Them Comes at a Price

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but just because you have an amazing connection with an individual doesn’t stop red flags from being red flags. Red flags will always be red flags! It doesn’t matter the color of lenses you wear to obscure the red color.

We, including me, are under the assumption that having a good connection with someone will somehow make the red flags disappear, automatically.  If we possessed that kind of power, then we would have to become part of the Avenger Team. How cool would that be?! Sadly, life doesn’t function like that. The truth is ignoring the red flags only prolongs the inevitable.

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Warning: An Attribute Can Quickly Become a Red Flag

Granted, we all have our faults. No human being who walks on this earth is perfect. If they say they are, it would be wise for them to do a double take and seriously look at themselves in a mirror. However, let’s not pretend that all red flags are created equally. Some might carry a heavier weight than others as it all comes down to personal preference. What one person might consider as a red flag, another might think of it as an attribute. One should be careful because an attribute can easily turn into a red flag in the blink of an eye. And then what? 

I will tell you what the outcome would be… By default, your heart is going to convince you that what you have with this person is special enough to fight for and push through whatever hardships the relationship throws your way. Here is one important thing to remember; the tango requires two people, not just one. It doesn’t matter how many times you try to force a puzzle piece to fit, it just would not fit, making the puzzle incomplete. 

An Attribute You Once Loved Can Quickly Become a Red Flag

Obstacles can arise in a relationship when one party’s repeatedly fails to fulfill the other’s basic needs and desires due to their owns selfish reasons. Of course, we have all been selfish one time or another, that’s human. However, constantly repeated egotistic actions are a massive red flag.

Having a great admiration and a strong desire for the relationship to work can cause you to ignore the yellow caution signs plastered all over. That can be understandable! Nevertheless, there comes a point where you have to come to the understanding that it is impossible to save the relationship. The red flags keep multiplying themselves no matter the lengths you go through to ignore them.  

The good thing is that, they will keep persisting until you realize that having a strong connection is no longer sufficient to maintain the relationship afloat. When that realization occurs, you will face the dilemma of choosing between walking away or staying in the hope he will change.  Although it is not an easy choice, the choice is all yours. I hope you choose right!

In the end, having a strong connection is not going to automatically erase the red flags.  You might ignore them in the hopes that you get used to them. As result, you will believe that the love you have for them is sufficient enough to surpass any obstacle. But is that really enough though? 

Ignoring red flags for whatever reason is like saying to yourself, “I’m okay with whatever.” In many ways, it is settling for someone you shouldn’t. Therefore, bringing forth self-disrespect and underappreciating yourself.  Let’s be clear about something: for other to respect and appreciate you, you have to respect and appreciate yourself first.  Simple as that! 

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