Why You Should Think Twice Before Placing Someone on a Pedestal

They disappointed you because you placed them on a pedestal!

The honest truth is that they end up disappointing us because we placed them on a pedestal. It’s not their fault; it’s our fault!

At times, we have the bad habit of creating these unrealistic expectations of individuals we are becoming acquaintances with. Ultimately, this lead us to giving them a superior status without earning it. This can result in our minds fabricating stories that usually have a 180-degree difference from what reality is. Consequently, we end up positioning them on a pedestal without giving them the chance to provide rightful evidences as to why they should be there. It’s a recurring issue faced by many in various aspects of life, especially in dating.

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Why Do We Place Others on a Pedestal?

More often than not, we possess the tendency to elevate a person to a point where we perceive them as almost untouchable, without any solid proof. Maybe we do it out of insecurity, due to being increasingly focused on obtaining a single outcome, which could obstruct our vision of reality. Gradually, this clouds our judgement and prevents us from labeling things for what they truly are. In doing so, our perception becomes distorted, which can persuade us to seeing someone imperfect and flawed as perfect and faultless.  

Holding a person on a pedestal could also be damaging to our well-being. Without realizing it, we are willingly granting a privilege that hasn’t yet been earned. In the process, we unknowingly label ourselves as lesser than or inferior. This can be attribute to the hunger of attaining a certain outcome, which can be responsible for heightening feelings of insecurities.

It is like trying to prove a hypothesis true, while failing horribly to gather the proper information and only relying on fantasy. In that case, the hypothesis is always going to turn out to be false. Due to you failing to carefully examine clearly and throughly the entire set of data presented to you. Actually, the information has alway been in front of you. Yet, you failed to analyze it cautiously because you were so fascinated by the ideal of them.

It is like trying to prove a hypothesis true. Meanwhile, you fail horribly to gather the proper information and only relying on fantasy. In that case, the hypothesis is always going to turn out false because you failed to carefully examine the data presented to you. The information has alway been in front of you. You, just failed to looked at it because you were so fascinated by the ideal of them.

Ask Yourself This Before Putting Someone on a Pedestal

My question is this: What are you looking for by placing others on a pedestal when you should be the one placing yourself there? Hmm. That is the question we ought to be asking ourself. Of course, we should admire others and be inspire by them. But not if it is at the expense of our own emotional well-being.  

That individual you have up high is no different from you. Yes, they might have the good looks going for them and the stamina needed to get things done. You have those things too! You just haven’t found the courage to take the next step  to go for what you want.

Next time, you go freely to put someone on a pedestal, ask yourself if they honestly deserve to be there. You might think they do, but have they really shown you? One thing is to say something, and another is to actually do it. To avoid disappointments, start by placing yourself on the pedestal as the ones who deserve to be there will earn it.

Stay Beautiful XoXo