For a flower to bloom, it first needs to be nurtured and watered with love and kindness. It is a process that takes time and dedication. Unfortunately, some grow in less desirable environments where receiving constant water is rare, yet manage to strive regardless. Winds and unpredictable weather conditions can snatch off the comfort of belonging brought by the paddles leaving nothing, but self-doubt and worthlessness. A few paddles less do not pry from its undeniable beauty, in fact, it gives an indistinguishable and transcending beauty.
Being unique is a privilege often overlooked or frown upon due to a lack of understanding. It is a blessing in disguise, many wish to have, but a few lucky ones are blessed with it. For instance, fewer paddles can make a rose appeared more fragile than the others. Yet, let’s not forget looks can be deceiving, making things seem different than what they appear to be. As a result, the naked eye is unable to grasp the incomparable inner strength and the rose’s ability to withstand the craziest of storms. Of course, additional paddles are visually appealing, nevertheless blooming is not guaranteed as it is an action that comes from within.
Whether the rose grows in an extravagant garden or darkest of the forest, flourishing would be inevitable with a fighting spirit and the self-confidence to overcome adversity. One is not better than the other, yet the rose in the forest does not need a garden to acknowledge how beautiful it is. Self-worth comes from deep within, instead of externally. With self-realization plus a little help from Mother Nature, the rose would surpass whatever obstacle because of its capabilities.
Happiness should come from within and not elsewhere. Sadly, doubts are an integrable part of life. People have felt insecure at some point in their life aware of how crippling can be. Accepting ourselves as we are, is key to discover genuine happiness until then happiness is superficial. Impossible for an individual to bring joy into your life if you are not content with who you are. Nothing can be constructed without a solid foundation, as it could crumble at any time and nothing would be left. First, develop the art of self-love as it would function sort of a blueprint for the type of love we are looking to receive. When the foundation is made out of self-confidence, self-love and self-admiration, it can withstand anything.
Dating can be all fun, yet exhausting when unsure of what you want. Sure, everyone wants someone special, but the issues arise the moment your entire happiness is based solely on the action of the other person. The problem is surrendering total control of your happiness when you should be the one at the wheel. Never depend on anyone to bring felicity into your life because you would be receiving a small portion of what you deserve. The relationship we have with ourselves should be above everything, then why we don’t prioritize it? We tend to give seventy-five percent to other relationships in search of acceptance. Obtaining validation does not magically disappear the battle we are constantly having with our insecurities. Happiness is a mirage until we form a truce with our insecurities.
It is okay to be selfish while trying to obtain true happiness within ourselves. Starting to focus on ourselves can be hard, especially if you are used to putting the needs of others first. Of course, changing the mechanism can be challenging, but not infeasible. Use journaling as an ally for analyzing the areas you would like to change. Writing thoughts down gives you a new perspective, otherwise unseeable. Plus, it holds you responsible for things you would not have held yourself accountable for. Thinking of taking up again painting, yet been making excuses not to, for example, write it down. By scribbling, our mind will remind us of the joy the activity used to bring us reminiscing of our initial love for painting. You will reconnect with a part of yourself that you unknowingly lost, which can give you immense joy. Each month write down a thing or two you would like to do that makes you happy.
Remember to make yourself happy before anyone else. You are a priority capable of achieving anything.